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2 quick and easy way you can empower your kids

3 Quick and Easy Ways You Can Empower Your Kids Every Single Day

This may sound scary, but I promise it isn’t... We will NOT be letting your kids run the house! We are talking about handing off power and control over insignificant things. Let that sink in… It is not our job to control our kids, but to set our kids up in a way that teaches them how … [Read more...] about 3 Quick and Easy Ways You Can Empower Your Kids Every Single Day

6 everyday routines that will curb bad behavior

6 Everyday Routines That Will Curb Difficult Behavior

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5 Simple Ways You Can Help Your Child Develop a Growth Mindset

Did you know research shows that kids who understand that their brains are capable of growing, try harder, achieve more success, and are overall happier kids? The beliefs we ALL have about our abilities and potential, shape the way we interpret our struggles and our successes. It fuels our … [Read more...] about 5 Simple Ways You Can Help Your Child Develop a Growth Mindset

How to Encourage Your Toddler to be Calm and Obedient at Bedtime

The freedom is so close you can almost taste it. The vision of you cozied up under a warm blanket in your recliner watching a new episode of your favorite trashy reality show while drinking a glass of wine begins to fill your head. If anyone was wondering, my trashy reality shows of choice … [Read more...] about How to Encourage Your Toddler to be Calm and Obedient at Bedtime

9 morning routine steps every parent needs to know about

9 Morning Routine Steps Every Parent Needs to Know About

Mornings with toddlers are anything but relaxing and joyful. In fact, they can be flat out stressful and frustrating as you chase them around the house trying to get them dressed, teeth brushed, and hair combed so you can be out the door on time. And don’t even get me started on the battle that … [Read more...] about 9 Morning Routine Steps Every Parent Needs to Know About

29 Genius Ways You Can Use a Visual Timer to Dramatically Improve Your Toddler’s Behavior

Did you know that one of the most common triggers for problem behavior is transitioning between activities, places, and objects of attention? Think about your toddler’s behavior struggles yesterday. Did they happen when your child was... asked to turn off the iPad? told that it was time … [Read more...] about 29 Genius Ways You Can Use a Visual Timer to Dramatically Improve Your Toddler’s Behavior

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Discipline doesn't always have to be negative. I Discipline doesn't always have to be negative. 

It's easy for us to forget that sometimes!

But one of the best ways to deal with misbehavior is to focus on the positive aspects of what your kids are doing.

When we use negative responses such as "Stop whining!" or "I can't hear you when you whine," then we give all of our attention to the behavior that we don't want to see repeated.

✨For our little ones and those with speech and language delays, we need to be very direct in teaching them effective communication.

Here's another example:

🔹Instead of saying, "No iPad until you get your pajamas on!"

🔹Try saying, "When you get your pajamas on, then you can go on your iPad."

See how that feels different?

In emphasizing the positive, you give your attention to the behaviors that you want to see repeated.

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How can you take some of your negative responses and turn them into positives? Comment below!

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Hi, I’m Allie! I simplify toddler discipline so parents can put an end to tantrums and power struggles, even if their child has limited speech and language skills. Follow me @mommymessenger on IG and TikTok to get all my tips & tricks that will help stop yelling and start connecting ❤️
"Because we are always parenting our children, it "Because we are always parenting our children, it takes real effort to look at our discipline strategies objectively.

Good intentions can be replaced by less-than-effective habits quickly, and that can leave us operating blindly, disciplining in ways that might not bring out our best - or the best in our children."

- Dr. Dan Siegal (No Drama Discipline)

Don't be too hard on yourself - this parenting gig is HARD!

Even the most well-intentioned, well-informed parents make these mistakes!!

✨Give youself a break.

✨Love your kids.

✨Set clear boundaries.

✨Discipline with love and understanding.

✨Apologize and make amends when you mess up.

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Hi, I’m Allie! I simplify toddler discipline so parents can put an end to tantrums and power struggles, even if their child has limited speech and language skills. Follow me @mommymessenger on IG and TikTok to get all my tips & tricks that will help stop yelling and start connecting ❤️
How do I make the whining STOP?!?! I know that fe How do I make the whining STOP?!?!

I know that feeling all too well. That nails on a chalkboard sound that drives you bananas!

Kids whine for a variety of different reasons. 

Before trying to handle the behavior directly, it’s important to make sure that one of these two things are not the culprit…

🔹Hunger
🔹Tiredness

If your child is tired or hungry, then you can bet that whining WILL happen. Heck, I whine when I’m hungry or tired too!

Besides being hungry or tired, lack of connection is by far the biggest contributing factor toward whining.

A child who feels disconnected from his parents will turn to whining to gain attention and power. 

This may be the only way they know how to do that. It doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative attention; they’ll take any and all of it!

This is why connecting with your child is the absolute best way to prevent whining.

But what do we do IN THE MOMENT?

The thing is, whining isn’t something we can physically control.

We can block a hit or grab a child’s hand who starts running away from you, but we can’t physically stop a child from whining.

✨Focus on what you CAN control….

Your response to the whining.

A child will continue to do what works for him. If you give in to his whiny request, then he’ll do it again next time.

Remain calm, allow a re-do to use his big strong voice, and ignore further whining (but not the child).

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❤DOUBLE TAP if you're dealing with a whiny toddler!

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Hi, I’m Allie! I simplify toddler discipline so parents can put an end to tantrums and power struggles, even if their child has limited speech and language skills. Follow me @mommymessenger on IG and TikTok to get all my tips & tricks that will help stop yelling and start connecting ❤
Every parent knows this grip 😆 #theMMtribe __ Every parent knows this grip 😆

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Grab my free Toddler Tantrum Roadmap where you'll learn how to handle tantrums like a boss! LINK IN BIO
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Hi, I’m Allie! I simplify toddler discipline so parents can put an end to tantrums and power struggles, even if their child has limited speech and language skills. Follow me @mommymessenger on IG and TikTok to get all my tips & tricks that will help stop yelling and start connecting ❤️
Want your kids to listen better? Be brief! Pare Want your kids to listen better? 

Be brief!

Parents often feel they need to point out what their kids did wrong and try to give them a lesson on why it's wrong and what they need to do differently next time right there in the heat of the moment.

I 100% FEEL THIS.

We don't want to feel like our child is "getting away with it."

The problem is, our toddlers don't have the capacity to take in all that information, ESPECIALLY when their downstairs (emotional) brain is triggered.

Yes, it's important to address the issue and teach a lesson, but timing absolutely matters. ⏰

In the heat-of-the-moment,, we simply need to address the issue briefly and MOVE ON.

Here are 4 steps you can follow:

1) Acknowledge the FEELING behind the behavior

"I see you're feeling frustrated. It's hard to wait while I help your brother, isn't it!?"

2) Set a limit

"I can't let you hit me."

3) Give alternatives

"You can tap me on the shoulder like this when you need my attention." (demonstrate)

4) Move on

"Hey, let's go see if those if those butterflies are still flying around outside!"

When we address the behavior briefly and move on, we avoid giving too much attention to the unwanted behavior. 

Once everyone is calm and your child's upstairs (thinking) brain comes back online, THEN we can sit down and have a discussion, teach our lessons, and give them the skills and tools to make a better decision next time.

#theMMtribe 

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Hi, I’m Allie! I simplify toddler discipline so parents can put an end to tantrums and power struggles, even if their child has limited speech and language skills. Follow me @mommymessenger on IG and TikTok to get all my tips & tricks that will help stop yelling and start connecting ❤
BE the things you want them to be. 👉You want BE the things you want them to be. 

👉You want them to be kind? Be kind to them.

👉You want them to be patient? Be patient with them.

👉You want them to be respectful? Respect them.

Yes, it would be SO much easier to TELL them to be all these things and teach them how to do it.

Explicit teaching DOES have it's place.

However, the BEST teacher is your actions.

Before you try to figure out the best way to teach them a concept, characteristic, or behavior, think about what YOU can do to model it.

✨How can I demonstrate kindness?

✨How can I show them respect?

✨How can I exercise patience?

"Do as I say, not as I do," doesn't cut it anymore 💁‍♀️
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